Through giving, either by donating money or volunteering our time, we help the recipient and ourselves. I’ve heard repeatedly from volunteers how much they get out of helping others. In this holiday season, I’d like to encourage you to do the same.
When we give, we get back. We love to see the eyes of a child or a loved one light up when they open a new gift. We feel joy at seeing the joy of others.
In fact, I’d argue this is one of the most important ways we continue to grow as adults – by opening our hearts through generosity.
In our daily lives, we’re rarely exposed to the effects of poverty. We live in a world of two Americas, one relatively wealthy and one definitely not. Every day, our front-line staff see the effects of poverty, but for the rest of us, the pain and suffering of poverty is either invisible or uncomfortable. I spent much of my early career working directly with families who were affected by poverty. I’ve been in homes with dirt floors. I’ve worked with teenagers who haven’t eaten in three days. I’ve witnessed homes with basically no furniture, heated by nothing but small kerosene heaters in the dead of winter.
Facing poverty, facing suffering, is not easy. Most of the time, most of us avoid it. We don’t like to feel what it brings up in us. Once in a while, however, it’s good to purposely connect with the suffering that exists in the lives of so many. It’s how we open our hearts, our compassion for others. It’s how we get outside of our small selves and touch something bigger and more powerful. When we give of ourselves, we become better people.
I’d like to encourage you to open your heart. With this deep recession, the number of people living in poverty in Durham is growing day by day. Poverty has an insurmountable effect on a family’s everyday life, hindering a child’s ability to succeed in school that much more. Take a moment to open your heart and imagine this kind of suffering. Now, take a look around you to acknowledge with gratitude all that you have. You probably have a lot to be grateful for. Now, take a moment to realize that you have the power to offer joy and to transform the life of one child or one family … or maybe more.
So give, and give generously.
-Bud Lavery, Executive Director